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Sadly very few people have any goals. Most of us are driven by the same routine daily, never considering setting specific goals for our lives.

We don’t attempt even the smallest of construction jobs without a plan, and yet many people work in a field they just happened to “fall in to” because someone suggested it, or a friend was doing it, or even worse—they didn’t have anything else to do.Not have a goal or plan in your life is like being out at sea in a rowboat and having no oars. You are not in charge; you will end up wherever the it goes. People without goals tend to let other people or circumstances control their lives.

We don’t attempt even the smallest of construction jobs without a plan, and yet many people work in a field they just happened to “fall in to” because someone suggested it, or a friend was doing it, or even worse — they didn’t have anything else to do. 

Many people say they have goals, but are sadly mistaking. They may say things like: “I have always wanted to visit Spain.” or “I would like a better car.” or “I want to earn more money.” or “Someday I’d love to learn to speak German”. When these things do not happen, they tend to blame on bad luck or someone else. They may make excuses like: they are too old, they are too young, they have no talent, they lack the skills, no time, etc. What they do not realize is they are not achieving their “so-called” goals because they are not goals at all; they are merely wishes and dreams.

Turning dreams into goals requires specific actions. A goal is so much more they a wish or a dream. A goal needs to be specific. A dream becomes a goal when action is taken.

We need to ask these questions:

Is it your goal? Is it something you passionately really want? How would reaching your goal make you feel? Close your eyes and think about that for a few minutes.

Exactly what is your goal? Write your goal down to the last detail. If your goal is a nicer house, write down where it is located, how many rooms does it have? Does it have a chimney? And so on. If your goal is to travel to let’s say to India, write down what you plan do to there, where you would like to stay, who you would be traveling with etc. If it is to earn more money, write down exactly how much down to the last dollar.

Write down a time limit. By what date do you intend to reach your goal? For example: I am going get my degree by June 13^th.

You first goals should be achievable. When you have set a date, it is time to make an action plan. Big goals must be broken down in to manageable pieces. 

Take your main goal and break it up to smaller parts. Set time limits on all your sub goals leading up to your main goal.

Make a list of obstacles. Be prepared for what may have to be overcome to reach your goal. If you’re not aware of potential problems, you’ll be side-tracked when they arise and lose sight of your objective.

Brainstorm. Make a lists of things you need to accomplish to reach your goal. Don’t worry if that list is small to start out with. When you start working towards your goal, your list will get longer. You will find a way to learn the skills you need as you work towards your goal.

Read your goal or goal out loud at least twice every day. Read your “to do” list several times daily.

“Genius” has been described as the “ability to focus on one thing at a time.”  Many people who are “geniuses” are so not only because they have a high intellect, but because they are a gift of being able to focus on the objective or goal at hand. 

This same focus must come in to play when determining what your goals are in relation to success.  You need to learn to work towards one major objective and juggle a few short- and mid-range goals at the same time. 

Start today. Take charge of your life. In order to reach your goal, you must stay focused. Eleanor Roosevelt, former First Lady, once said: “It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan”.

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Do you yearn to live a more fulfilled, more satisfying life? If so then what are you doing to get there? Are you taking unconditional accountability for the course of your own life or is your plan to just hope things improve?

Understand this, there is no such thing as a short cut to living a full and satisfying life. Self improvement is the most important step you can take to enjoy the life you desire. It’s true, achievement is a learned skill. And if you fail to make learning how to succeed in life a personal quest then it’s more than likely the success you seek will forever elude you.

Which personal development steps can be undertaken in order to achieve more? The following seven suggestions provide only a starting point. Your evolution needs to be a work in progress without a finish line.

1. Tune into your purpose
Are you drifting through life without direction with only hope of finding ultimate fulfillment? By identifying your life’s purpose you’ll be providing yourself a unique compass which will lead you absolutely to your desired destination every time. Your journey to success will present numerous hurdles, it is this unique compass which will help guide you through.

2. Be aware of your own values
What is it you value most? Identify your 5 most important values. Some of what you value could be safety, time freedom, your loved ones, health, education and so on. As you set your life and business goals, make sure they are in line with your values. If the goals you set do not jibe with your values, they may not be the right goals.

3. Be aware of your needs
Your own needs gone unattended will keep you from living as your true self. Put yourself as number one. Love yourself first. This world is chock filled with people who do not acknowledge the needs they have. And when needs go unacknowledged that usually always means dreams will go unfulfilled. Be aware of your top five needs and make sure that they become filled before it’s too late!

4. Your passions are paramount
Nobody else can determine that which makes you happy. Temporary obstacles like self doubt and weak enthusiasm can hinder you, however they will not stop you. Not as long as you know what your true passions are.

5. On the inside first then the outside second
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If the life you’re living is not what you’d hoped it would be then take do a personal evaluation. Get into a daily habit of sitting quietly with your thoughts. Take a look at where you are in life and envision where it is you wish to be. Do you have a belief in yourself that you can get there? Is there some inner conflict you need to deal with in order to realize your dream success? This point is crucial and cannot be taken lightly.

6. Pay homage to your strengths
What are your strongest traits? What unique talents do you have? Make a list of three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help uncover them. Are you creative, witty or mechanically inclined? Find ways to showcase your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you allow others in on your gifts.

7. Learn to serve others
After you’ve gotten a handle on the previous 6 suggestions, you will discover an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, live with purpose and share your talents to the world, your true essence will then emerge. The many rewrds you will enjoy for serving others with your special gifts will far exceed your wildest imagination. The appreciation people will have for what you’re able to do for them will come back to you immeasurably.

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