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Do you yearn to live a more fulfilled, more satisfying life? If so then what are you doing to get there? Are you taking unconditional accountability for the course of your own life or is your plan to just hope things improve?

Understand this, there is no such thing as a short cut to living a full and satisfying life. Self improvement is the most important step you can take to enjoy the life you desire. It’s true, achievement is a learned skill. And if you fail to make learning how to succeed in life a personal quest then it’s more than likely the success you seek will forever elude you.

Which personal development steps can be undertaken in order to achieve more? The following seven suggestions provide only a starting point. Your evolution needs to be a work in progress without a finish line.

1. Tune into your purpose
Are you drifting through life without direction with only hope of finding ultimate fulfillment? By identifying your life’s purpose you’ll be providing yourself a unique compass which will lead you absolutely to your desired destination every time. Your journey to success will present numerous hurdles, it is this unique compass which will help guide you through.

2. Be aware of your own values
What is it you value most? Identify your 5 most important values. Some of what you value could be safety, time freedom, your loved ones, health, education and so on. As you set your life and business goals, make sure they are in line with your values. If the goals you set do not jibe with your values, they may not be the right goals.

3. Be aware of your needs
Your own needs gone unattended will keep you from living as your true self. Put yourself as number one. Love yourself first. This world is chock filled with people who do not acknowledge the needs they have. And when needs go unacknowledged that usually always means dreams will go unfulfilled. Be aware of your top five needs and make sure that they become filled before it’s too late!

4. Your passions are paramount
Nobody else can determine that which makes you happy. Temporary obstacles like self doubt and weak enthusiasm can hinder you, however they will not stop you. Not as long as you know what your true passions are.

5. On the inside first then the outside second
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If the life you’re living is not what you’d hoped it would be then take do a personal evaluation. Get into a daily habit of sitting quietly with your thoughts. Take a look at where you are in life and envision where it is you wish to be. Do you have a belief in yourself that you can get there? Is there some inner conflict you need to deal with in order to realize your dream success? This point is crucial and cannot be taken lightly.

6. Pay homage to your strengths
What are your strongest traits? What unique talents do you have? Make a list of three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help uncover them. Are you creative, witty or mechanically inclined? Find ways to showcase your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you allow others in on your gifts.

7. Learn to serve others
After you’ve gotten a handle on the previous 6 suggestions, you will discover an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, live with purpose and share your talents to the world, your true essence will then emerge. The many rewrds you will enjoy for serving others with your special gifts will far exceed your wildest imagination. The appreciation people will have for what you’re able to do for them will come back to you immeasurably.

Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is always worth the effort. To continue your journey towards success, you may download a free copy of Daniel Herzner’s self help book A Plum In The Syrup. This book has already touched hundreds of lives and has helped a countless number of people and now it’s your turn. Simply go to APlumInTheSyrup dot come now to claim your own copy absolutely free.

When Janice was in high school, she had secured a reputation as a person who hit the books real hard and who rarely, if ever, had fun drinking with her friends. She seemed highly motivated to “shine” academically so that she would be able to secure a career that she not only liked but one that also gave her some security from a financial point of view.

After much thought, in due course she came to a decision that she wanted to be a trial lawyer. In order to do this, however, she would first have to complete four years of undergraduate education.

After Completing High School Janice Gets Accepted Into A Prominent Undergraduate University as a Springboard For a Career as a Lawyer

After Janice graduated from high school, she applied to and was accepted into a highly rated program in history. Her rationale for this decision was that this subject area would be good training for law school and wouldn’t be indistinguishable from the preponderance of law school applicants who choose political science as their undergraduate minor or major.

After graduating with a 3.9 GPA at the undergrad level, she applied to and was accepted at a nationally ranked law school at one of the Big Ten universities.

She was enthusiastic about her legal studies but sometimes she was besieged with all the work that had to be done at law school. In much the same way as she had done in her high school and undergraduate days, nonetheless, she made friends without much effort but scarcely got involved in social activities until the semester was completed.

After Being Delighted With the Fact That She Had Done Very Well on Her Finals, Janice Wanted to Let Her Hair Down and Do Something Besides Going to College For a Change

Janice was the kind of person who worked studiously to complete what she started and then would take a break when she could. As it turns out, nevertheless, nearly all of the things she did between terms or during her summer vacations did not have much to do with drinking. Clearly, Janice was anything but a party-girl. Now that her finals for her second year in law school were completed and thrilled with the fact that she had done a super job on her finals, nonetheless, she wanted to let her hair down and do something besides going to college for a change.

Drinking at a Local Saloon Results in Alcohol Poisoning, Calling 911, The Emergency Services Number, and An Ambulance Ride to An Alcohol Rehab Center

So Janice and some of her friends from college went to a local tavern where they had a few beers. As the hours went by, Janice continued to drink without having a care in the world about exams the next day. Indeed, Janice mentioned to her pals how nice it was to have fun drinking with her law school friends.

As the evening progressed, Janice and her classmates continued to drink. As a matter of fact, she was having such a splendid time that she didn’t want the night to end. It was almost like she was making up for lost time and making an attempt to shove a year’s worth of laughter and fun into a single evening. Such a “game plan,” it needs to be stressed, does not often work. As a matter of fact, when Janice went to the powder room and threw up, her friends started to feel uneasy about her safety.

A few moments later when Janice started to speak in a confused manner, slur her words, and then fall unconscious, however, her pals immediately realized that they needed to call 911 and ask for medical assistance because they suspected that Janice was exhibiting alcohol poisoning symptoms.

Once Janice was in the hospital, the lead healthcare professional corroborated what her buddies had hypothesized, that is to say, that Janice consumed far more alcohol than her body could process and, as a result, she experienced an alcohol overdose.

After the emergency room medical staff pumped her stomach until no gastric contents were visible, Janice was placed in the recovery room. After staying about four hours in recovery, Janice was then transferred to one of the regular hospital rooms. Fortunately, the most dangerous part of her hospitalization had passed and all of her vital signs were back to normal.

In response to Janice’s medical predicament, her buddies attentively called her Mom and Dad. As a consequence, early the next morning, her Mother and Father and her best friends went to the hospital to visit Janice and look into her medical progress.

Janice Narrowly Escapes Death, is Happy to be Alive, and Promises to Never Again Drink in an Abusive and Excessive Manner

Janice was very aware that she had narrowly escaped death and, as a result, was happy to be alive. At the same time, nonetheless, she was somewhat disheartened knowing that she had almost passed away the previous night. Her Mother and Father realized how intensely she studied in graduate school and how little she permitted herself to socialize with her pals. Nevertheless, they also knew that Janice needed to steer clear of excessive drinking.

As a consequence, they suggested that down the road, whenever a drinking opportunity develops, that she always drink in moderation. Janice agreed and assured her parents and her friends that she would never again drink in an excessive and hazardous manner. As stated by Janice, “I never thought that I would become one of the alcohol abuse and alcoholism statistics in the local newspaper. I now realize that excessive drinking is not for me. I give my word of honor that this will never happen again.”

Fortunately, Janice was not only “book smart” but she also had common sense. Stated more explicitly, she rapidly grasped the fact that she had made an error in judgment and decided that she would never make the same error again. In actual fact, she now realized that she had involved herself in “binge drinking” and that even one instance of this type of excessive drinking can end in a loss of life.

The conversations that go on in our heads can easily color our thinking which will directly affect our behaviors in various ways. We may not realize it but the conversations many of us have with ourselves can be negative and self-defeating. Since our mind is within our control, why not feed it with positive thoughts?

While thinking positively easy enough but for it to really work, it has to start from the very essence and core of your mind and self. A surefire method of attacking negativity at its core is by practicing positive self-affirmations. The power of positive affirmations lie in reconditioning your brain to eliminate negative self-talk and drastically change how you think and feel of just about ANY situation.

Here are 5 reasons why you should make positive self-affirmations a priority for personal growth today.

1. Positivity breeds success. And it works both ways since successful people tend to think positively. Studies show that optimists have a higher general well-being and are usually more productive, more often promoted and typically earn more than pessimists. Why? The science behind it says that positive thinkers set higher goals and are more motivated to persist at them and achieve these goals. Moreover, positive self-affirmations help us strengthen our beliefs and empower us to reach our targets.

2. Positivity attracts good things. Positive people can attract other positive, powerful people and are always on the look for the next best thing. All these things typically translate to  opportunities for success and a readiness to take anything on when it comes. If your self-perception is one of success, others will notice that and you will attract like minded individuals.

3. Positivity improves health. Studies have shown that our physical health is positively correlated with our mental health. Positive thinking has been correlated with a lower rates of depression and levels of distress, greater immunity, lowered risk of cardiovascular diseases, greater coping skills during times of duress and in direct relation to all that, an increased lifespan.

4. Positivity enhances relationships. We're automatically drawn to people who are positive and feel good. This is because when you feel better about yourself, you’re more comfortable to be around. That aside, positive thinking increases your self-esteem and internal security, making your relationships more naturally rewarding.

5. Positivity increases happiness. Here's why. Positive people typically have a greater capacity for love, joy and warmth. They are also usually more externally focused and are kinder and definitely more considerate to other people in their lives. Add that to success, good health and rewarding relationships – you’ve got higher general well-being.

Mahatma Ghandi once said:

Keep your thoughts positive because they become your words
Keep your words positive because they become your behaviors
Keep your habits positive because they become your values
Keep your values positive because they become your destiny.

What he said stresses on several important things. Firstly, we have control over our thoughts, words, habits and values. Secondly, what you sow is what you’ll reap. Today, many people actively strive to cultivate and maintain positive thinking for their personal growth because they are aware of the multitude of benefits positive thinking has in store for them. As such, their results demonstrate themselves everyday in the form of achievement and general well-being. So put on that thinking cap and generate some positive affirmations for yourself today to enjoy the benefits they will bring to every aspect of your life.

Sarah and Jerry have been married for five years. They wanted to have some excitement and fun before they decided to have some kids and so they intentionally developed an incredibly exciting social life.

The principal issue, however, is that nearly everything they do socially is associated with drinking. For example, all of the happy hours, dinner engagements, sporting events, parties with friends, and family get-togethers they attend have something to do with drinking.

Jerry and Sarah Start to See Some Noticeable Alcohol Related Issues That are Associated With Their Abusive Drinking

If they were occasional drinkers, this wouldn’t be such a difficult situation. Because they drink in an excessive manner, nevertheless, they are starting to see some unmistakable alcohol-related issues in their lives.

For instance, just four days ago Jerry received a third DWI and has been showing up late for work due to alcohol-related health issues. Furthermore, Jerry’s last two or three performance appraisals at his place of employment have been less than acceptable and he has begun to fail to remember what he says or does while he drinks. As a final point, Jerry has been experiencing sleep-related problems and his family is starting to get apprehensive about his drinking difficulties.

Similar to Jerry’s situation, Sarah has been feeling unhappy about life in general and to manage these feelings, she has been drinking more than any time in the past eleven months. Moreover, Sarah has been getting more than a few headaches and suffering from excruciating hangovers from drinking. Finally, Sarah has been feeling appreciably less active when she awakens, she has been getting to work late almost every Monday, and she has been getting some harsh criticism from her relatives, friends, family members, and coworkers about her irresponsible drinking.

Watching the Television and Flipping the Channels and Finding An Out-of-the-Ordinary Program About the Signs of Alcohol Dependency

One Sunday evening while watching the television, Jerry and Sarah went through the channels and found an attention-grabbing documentary about the signs of alcoholism.

This TV program was a real jolt to Sarah and Jerry because many of the alcoholism signs that were discussed appeared as if they were indisputably linked to numerous alcohol-related drinking problems Jerry and Sarah had been experiencing.

A Candid Chat About Drinking Behavior Exposes Alcohol Related Relationship, Health, Employment, Legal, and Financial Problems

After watching the television documentary, Sarah and Jerry made up their minds to have an open conversation about their drinking circumstances. They both were in agreement that most, if not all, of their social activities somehow involved drinking, that they were drinking in an abusive manner, and that as a married couple, they were beginning to see alcohol related employment, health, financial, legal, and relationship problems for the first time in their lives.

With thoughts of the television special still running through her mind, Sarah asked Jerry if some of the alcoholism signs they have been displaying could be a signal that they are alcoholic or maybe becoming addicted to alcohol. Jerry didn’t know the answer to Sarah’s inquiry and so he recommended that they make an appointment with one of the physicians at the nearby alcohol abuse treatment clinic to find out more about the seriousness of their drinking difficulties.

Attending To Your Drinking Difficulties Just May Lessen Your Trepidation and Give You A Degree of Peacefulness

Ironically, although their drinking situation hadn’t yet changed, it was clear that Jerry and Sarah were at least dealing with their drinking problems, they were willing to find out more about their drinking situation, and they were concerned about how they could significantly reduce or get rid of the alcohol-related difficulties that had started to deteriorate.

When Jerry and Sarah went to bed that night, they made up their minds that the next morning, Jerry would call and make an appointment for both of them at the alcohol rehabilitation center located downtown. After they made a promise to one another that they would do whatever it takes to surmount the alcohol-related difficulties that had manifested themselves in their lives, they actually had the most revitalizing night’s sleep they could recall in the last eight weeks.

Just before he fell asleep, Jerry turned to Sarah and observed how painless it is to lessen one’s apprehension and actually experience some serenity by addressing one’s problems with conviction and deciding to do something affirmative about them.

A New Memo About GOAL SETTING:
From One Future Thinking Consultant to Another

If self-improvement is what you believe in, then you should believe in books, because nearly all improvements that have taken place through the ages have happened through the written word. Books have a tendency toward affecting people on a deeply personal level. And, as more people read a book (or books about a particular topic), the effect becomes universal.

One of the best ways to help people who want to improve their Goal Setting is by passing along good information that works through books.

No matter which writer you speak to, you will get a different opinion about “how to write a book.” In fact, you might get as many opinions as the number of people you’ve asked.

Some will tell you to begin by writing a book proposal, others will say that using book writing software did the trick for them.

It is very important to know “how to write a book or book proposal and get it published”, but the real driving force for a business person are the motivations to write a book.

Each person has many reasons for writing a book, says book business expert DrProactive Randy Gilbert, but there are 4 that almost everyone has in common. The best way to satisfy those reasons it to a build a business around the book so that it makes money as it becomes a bestseller.

DrProactive calls it a “bestselling business,” because it can make you a bestselling author and a millionaire at the same time. Working quickly and starting to write a book proposal that has a business built as an integral part of it, is a smart thing to do.

If you need help motivating yourself to finally write a book, perhaps one of these benefits will inspire you.

#1 – A Bestselling Book is a Springboard For Marketing
The bigger clients will be much more likely to open the door to you as a Bestselling Author. The ‘big fish’ clients want someone with a large breadth and depth of expertise, and having a top selling book conveys this about you. This is the ultimate marketing tool and is certain to keep your fees going up and up.

#2 – Sell Lots of Books and You Will Have Your Own Sales Force Around the World
When your book becomes a New York Times bestseller it will get into more stores, which is like having a huge sales force, because people will be introduced to you and your products all across the globe. And, as they read your book, they are being convinced to have you give them more information specifically for their group. Plus you’ll discover that your book sells everything and everything sells your book.

#3 – A Bestselling Book is an Open Door to Tons of Media Worth Millions
Your Bestselling Book gives you mega-credibility with the news media, which opens doors to interviews in newspapers, magazines, on radio, and even on television. Bang for buck, you can’t beat this advertising Because being interviewed positions you as the expert, this form of advertising is far more effective than just buying ad spots.

#4 – Being a Bestselling Author is an Opportunity Multiplier
When you follow the mastermind principle and then proactively do all that is necessary to become a Bestselling Author earning a 7-figure income, you’ll be asked to join in unbelievable opportunities to earn even more money. People will want to joint venture with you in such a way that they will do nearly all of the work…and you’ll just enjoy the extra income.

SUMMARY:

You have to agree, no matter which reason is highest on your list, writing a good book and making it a bestseller is a life-changing event and it will make you want to take action. No matter what your most important reason might be, it is quite clear, writing a book is a very good thing.